NO STAGE LIGHTS

We talk a lot about “the one that got away” when it comes to romantic relationships. But what about friendships? Terry and I started talking about this recently, and it turned into a much bigger conversation than either of us expected. Because we’ve both had people in our lives who once felt incredibly important. People who knew us during certain chapters, believed in us, challenged us, made us feel safe or simply became part of our everyday lives. And then, somehow, they wer

Safety is a funny thing because it doesn’t always look the way we think it will. Sometimes safety is a person. Sometimes it’s money in the bank. Sometimes it’s knowing the bills are paid and the roof isn’t leaking. And apparently, sometimes it’s knowing there are three extra packages of toilet paper in the basement. The more Terry and I talked about what makes us feel safe, the more I realized how many little things I do every day that are really about creating a sense of sec

Authenticity is one of those words we hear all the time. Be authentic. Show up as yourself. Be real. It sounds great, but I think it gets a little more complicated when you actually try to live it. Because how many of us have spent way too much energy trying to be the version of ourselves we think other people want or need us to be? Sometimes authenticity isn’t some big vulnerable moment. Sometimes it’s simply being able to say, “I’m tired.” Or “I don’t know.” Or “I’m still f